Churches typically like to say they’re “friendly” as a selling point. They might even put on their sign “Come as you are.” It’s supposed to mean that church is a safe place for everyone. Anyone can find acceptance and belonging in church.
But you and I both know that’s bogus.
Not just anyone can find love and acceptance in any church. I’ve heard stories from personal friends who’ve felt unwelcome at church. I just read a story of a male prostitute who was run out of church by the other men. Ghandi was run out of church. Sure, we want everyone to go to church. There’s just some people that some Christians would rather see go to someone else’s church.
When I first came to EWC, I’ll admit now, that I was a punk kid! I came with the baggy clothes, hat down over my eyes, drugs in my pocket and an attitude of hatred for the world! I thought for sure the only reason people were being nice to me was because of my family (the Hardwick’s and the Wesley’s). When I finally let my guard down and allowed God to work in my life it was apparent that the staff and members of EWC were different. After 14 years, I know that my heart has changed, but I also believe because of what is taught, at EWC, about love and acceptance that the members are changed as well.
Some of you may be thinking that people like I used to be, should have to clean up their act pretty quickly if they plan on sticking around your church. Sure, as quickly as I can point out that Jesus didn’t condemn the adulteress, you’ll point out that he also told her to “sin no more.”
But what if she did go on sinning? What if that porn star took ten years to be convicted by God, get baptized and leave porn? What if she needed forgiveness every week? Would we be able to tolerate her? What about the people who aren’t “sinning” but are just “annoying?”
Some people think they attend really “accepting” churches who would welcome anyone off the streets. Some churches are full of punks and “misfits.” Would that CEO in the power suit be able to make the cut for those churches? What about the Christians who just happen to be really different from you? It’s a beautiful thing when different people can worship God in harmony. It just doesn’t happen often.
So be honest. Who might not make the cut in your church? Where have you seen the people of your church draw the line when it came to loving people? Are you one of those people who have failed to welcome?
Through my experiences here at EWC, I can truly say it is a welcoming place! I encourage everyone to continue to speak and hug everyone that comes through those doors. THAT is what really begins making a difference!
Beth Ruby
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